Friend request with a reason

(#955) Feature Under consideration dms moderation

Problem

Often if you join a lot of different communities. Then at some point you may start getting friend request from people who wanna just try to scam you, sell you AI art etc. In between these people could be few of them which do not have malicious intentions. And usually you need to start conversation with them. To know who they are or look at their bio. And it can be kinda mess if you need to check every bio, you will delete like 30 and in few days you have another 36 friend requests.

Proposed solution

My proposed solution is to add option which can be turned on. Instead of fully turning off friend request. There should be option which let user turn on mandatory reason for friend request. After turning this on, every person sending friend request to you. Could be greeted with popup question "Reason for friend request". That small box limited only to 130 or 150 letters, should ignore empty spaces. So if someone tries to bypass it and hold spacebar. It should not pick it as real message. And seeing friend request with writen reason for adding. Makes filtering friend requests little bit faster and easier.

Notes (optional)

On discord i am getting friend request where someone or bot just press button "Send friend request" and i need to scan every profile or waste my time and try to start conversation. Because i do not see any message from them. This feature is not magic thing which will solve everything but it is definitely small detail which makes filtering friend requests easier. One solution is turn off friend requests completely but then i will forget to turn it on. And seeing friend request where as reason is written something like "I met you in the Shopping mall yesterday" Or "It's me, Luigi, i use different name here" makes visual sorting easier.

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Comment by @vkyfox
RexSystem 1 vote originally by @vkyfox on GitHub
To be fair, independent to the idea of counteracting spam invites; I think it could be pretty cool to have a "reason for friend request" field any time you add someone! It could have the added benefit of being a sort of confirmation to make sure you didn't request by mistake and for every "spontaneous" friend request where you're already chatting with the person, you could make your reason a dot, an emoji or just leave it empty (if the person hasn't made having a reason mandatory for their FR). I don't know! It's just my two cents but I am fond of the idea. Having received countless of friend requests that amount to nothing myself, I would probably want that option on as well! As for what solutions exist right now — I'm an administrator of a public image board and we accept mod applications, so my discord handle is published and I need to accept DMs and FR from everyone if people want to reach me from there, so I can't really use any of the "you must have a server in common" etc. security checks. Having that field would definitely be a nice add in my opinion!